What do I mean by Perfectionism is Stupid! ? It certainly is NOT that you shouldn’t strive to be the best speaker that you can be on stage. What I mean is that anxious energy put into trying to make anything absolutely perfect is counterproductive. The truth is, if you look at some of the [...]
What do I mean by Perfectionism is Stupid! ?
It certainly is NOT that you shouldn’t strive to be the best speaker that you can be on stage. What I mean is that anxious energy put into trying to make anything absolutely perfect is counterproductive.
The truth is, if you look at some of the best speakers out there, they all make mistakes – and often very big ones! And they make them all the time. But, and this is the key, they don’t get hung up on it, they just shrug it off, and move on. Or better still they use it to actually build their relationship with the audience.
So how do you handle your mistakes? I’ve put some tips in the video.
The way you feel at any moment in time depends on just two things: your focus (what are you thinking about) and physiology (what’s going on with your body). Today’s is a focus tip — what to do with your mind to move it into a more empowering stage. Questions – the ones we ask [...]
The way you feel at any moment in time depends on just two things: your focus (what are you thinking about) and physiology (what’s going on with your body).
Today’s is a focus tip -- what to do with your mind to move it into a more empowering stage.
Questions – the ones we ask others and the ones we ask ourselves -- are unbelievably powerful. Any good sales person knows that you ask lots of questions, because questions engage the mind. But they also DIRECT the mind -- so you need to be careful what you ask!
The problem is that most of us ask really lousy questions when it comes to public speaking. Like “What happens if I screw up? What happens if they hate me?” And then we come up with answers like “Oh my God, I won’t get the promotion. They’ll demote me. They’ll fire me.”
Well, then ask a better question: “What happens if I knock it out of the park?” It’s just as relevant a question… Watch today’s short video and leave a comment.
Go BIG or Go Home…
This lesson is critical for anyone appearing in front of an audience. What’s great is that the same technique that will really help your performance will also significantly impact any stage fright or performance anxiety you might have experienced. It’s all about ‘filling the room’ — making sure that when you speak you reach the [...]
Please Continue Reading... →Rehearse How You’ll Feel when Speaking… Overcome Performance Anxiety
In my work I’ve had the privilege of working with people from all over the work who have different fears and phobias, in particular people with a fear of public speaking and stage fright. So we have a lot of experience of it and I think it is so important to have a tool kit [...]
Please Continue Reading... →Go to Bed Already.
It sounds so obvious but actually getting enough sleep is one of the best things you can do to reduce anxiety in general and performance anxiety / stage fright in particular. Now, I understand that sometimes it isn’t easy — but sometimes it is. I can’t count the times I’ve been at a seminar and [...]
Please Continue Reading... →Imagine, that you are on stage speaking to an audience, and someone asks a question that you don’t know the answer to. Maybe this has happened to you before? What can you do? The situation can be terrifying for some people, especially when you don’t know how to deal with it. I have learnt a [...]
Please Continue Reading... →Success Scenarios: Determine How it will Go in Advance
One of the most powerful techniques for improving your experience of speaking on stage or speaking in public is to design what we call a success scenario. This is a technique that we use very powerfully with our clients and had great feedback on their personal results. So what is a success scenario? Basically it [...]
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